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Therapy Kay, MA & MSW Candidate

Hi! I'm Kaytlyn Gilner, founder of Therapy Kay, mental health advocate, and host of the Not So Dumb Blonde Podcast. I hold a Master's degree in International Relations and am currently pursuing a Master of Social Work, bringing both global and systems-based perspectives to mental health, relationships, trauma, and emotional well-being. Through community leadership, women's groups, and mental health events, I've helped connect more than 400 women in the Denver area with support, resources, and meaningful connection.

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Managing Trauma - Sorry, But You Are Doing This Wrong

Therapy Kay MA, MSW Masters Level Clinical Intern Hi Reader, Here's an update from this past week. Owning Your Trauma: Steps to Healthier Relationships Learn how to manage your triggers and heal for good. In my latest Monday episode, I dove into the intricacies of managing trauma and its impact on relationships. If you’ve ever felt like your past experiences hinder your present connections, this episode is for you. I talk about this because I understand how badly past trauma can creep into...

100 Women Took a Survey About Their Struggles and This is What They said Hi Reader, I am so grateful for those of you who participated in this survey. Thank you for your time and for contributing to something bigger in our community for women, by women. The results are in and the tea is HOT! Can we talk about one of my FAVORITE parts of this survey? 😂 I asked: “What do you wish existed that would actually help you?” Apparently, we are all looking for the same mental health treatment: ✨ A...

Hi Reader, Happy Monday 💛 There has been a lot happening in the news lately, particularly around mental health that I don't feel right glossing over. If you’ve been online, you’ve probably seen some of the conversations surrounding Perez Hilton, as well as the ongoing Lindsay Clancy case. I don’t want to go into all of the details here, but these stories have brought up some really important conversations around mental health, crisis intervention, postpartum mental health, and what it looks...

Love is Blind's Joe Ferrucci Joins Not So Dumb Blonde! Hello Reader, Not So Dumb Blonde has had a BIG week, to say the least! I had the honor of joining Netflix's Love Is Blind star Joe Ferrucci on his Table for 1 podcast last week. If that wasn't fun enough, Joe also joined me for a deep conversation about his recent breakup, dating, and relationships after reality TV. BOTH episodes are now live! (See below.) On my guest appearance, we talked all about debunking online therapy and dating...

Top Stories and Updates This Week Hi Reader, So much has happened these last few weeks and I cannot wait to share it with you. It means so much to me that you are here on this journey with me. I couldn't do it without you. Most of you know that I am in my MSW program to become a therapist. I just finished my summer finals, and I only have two semesters left! WOOOOOOOO HOOO! I am beginning my internship at a DBT Clinic next week where I will be conducting group and individual therapy. I am...

The Grief in Healing There are seasons of healing that really just suck. Healing doesn't always feel like the inspirational quotes or the before-and-after's we see on social media. Sometimes it can feel numb, heartbreaking, and just Sh*ty. Like wondering if you will ever be fully “healed” or if any of the work is even worth it. Loneliness. Fatigue. Imposter-Syndrome. Sometimes it's grieving the future you thought you would have. Sometimes it's grieving the past version of yourself or the...

What Does Trauma Do to The Brain? Navigating the symptoms of chronic trauma are very real for those who suffer from it. The day-to-day feelings of "is this fear real, or is it just my past trauma?" or "why do I get so reactive to things others seem to navigate seamlessly?" It can be incredibly frustrating for those who experience trauma because it's an invisible injury to those on the outside looking in. Unlike a broken bone, you cannot see the physical effects of trauma. People want to see...

June Monthly Recap and Updates

Coffee & Comedy Success Hi :) I hope you're having a beautiful week! I wanted to share a few behind-the-scenes updates from the last few weeks. 🌈 Pride Month was one for the books. I hosted my very first comedy show and it SOLD OUT! The night was filled with laughter, meaningful conversations, and a reminder that healing doesn't always have to happen through hard conversations. Sometimes it happens through community and laughter. Because of its success, I've decided I'll most likely continue...

Hi! I honestly can't believe I'm finally writing this email. I am so excited to share that after months of writing, filming, researching, redesigning, questioning myself and probably changing my mind a MILLION times over... My 30-Day DBT Guided Self-Trust Reset Workbook is officially here. This isn't just another workbook BTW. This is something that would have harnessed my untammed brain and saved me years of heartache trying to break unhealthy patterns. This is the resource I wish I had....

Weekly Updates Top posts and news from this week Hello Friends, This week was a special one. Not So Dumb Blonde Hosted its very first Comedy Show in Denver and it SOLD OUT! A portion of the proceeds supported teen mental health initiatives for Servicios de la Raza. I cannot put into words how special this night was. To see so many people come together to support mental health, build community, and laugh our butt's off was incredible. I will be sharing photos soon! In celebration of pride...